Five Simple Steps to Help You Communicate More Mindfully

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“Be impeccable with your word” is the first of four in Don Miguel Ruiz’s book, The Four Agreements.

It states:

How can you change the way you use your words?

  • Actively listen to what the other person is saying.
    Make eye contact. Don’t interrupt
  • Be empathetic.
    Try to see the person behind the words.
  • Be present.
    Being present goes along with actively listening, but it also means being mindful.
  • Don’t gossip.
    Resist the temptation to take part in conversations that center around passing on that juicy bit of news about someone. Chances are they’ll be talking about you when you’re not around.
  • Hold your tongue.
    When someone says something to piss you off, take a breath before you reply. Or don’t reply at all. Leave them with their nasty words.
  • Be honest in the gentlest way possible.
    Look someone in the eyes and just say it. Try smiling to lighten your words.

It’s all about habit

Good communication is good manners. These steps are simple but not easy.

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Marilyn is a writer, yogi, and spiritual medium. Her favorite people are animals, especially ones that meow. She loves the ocean and hates one-use plastic.

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