Give Yourself a Break, You’re Doing Better than You think.
My life is filled with first-world problems. I will hazard a guess that many of yours fall into that category as well. And I am grateful and resentful of them at the same time.
I don’t lack the basics. I have food, clean drinking water, a roof over my head and clothes on my back.
Still, there’s the lousy job with the long commute, the slow computer and incessant demands of life.
I work hard and still can’t afford a bigger house, designer clothing, and the status symbol of success: a high-end car.
But that’s the icing on the cake.
We’re not living in Syria, and if you’re a woman, you’re twice as lucky you don’t live there. Your children are, for the most part, safe.
Life is hard and some days I want to give up and pitch a tent in the woods.
Some days I swear the sky is falling.
But it isn’t and it won’t.
This is where I need to remember to have gratitude for what I have and who I am at this moment. I’m doing okay. And we’re all doing the best we can, so give yourself some credit.
Gratitude and the Law of Attraction
Gratitude is the quality of being thankful and/or a feeling appreciate for someone or something.
The Law of Attraction is a universal law that states like attracts like and manifests in the physical world. It applies to our thoughts, words, actions.
If you can put the two together, then not only can we get what we want, but we may even enjoy the process.
And we’ll be happier now.
In How to Stop Worrying and Start Living, Dale Carnegie states:
“Two men looked out from prison bars. One saw mud and the other saw stars.”
Like the two men in prison, we cannot completely control our outer world, but we can control our inner world. Even when we’re miserable, we can feel somewhat less so if we can tap into the gratitude mindset.
My progress toward being less miserable is gradual but steady.
Here are a few things that have helped me and can get you started.
Reading takes your mind out of thinking mode and puts it into receiving mode. It shifts your attention away from the present and puts it in another place and time. It’s entertaining, and it opens up space to let new thoughts enter.
It doesn’t have to be a gym work-out or power yoga. Just move. Moving gets your heart pumping and your blood flowing. A brisk 30-minute walk can do this. If you’re not up to quick, try a slower but longer walking time.
If nothing else, add a salad a day to a meal. Fresh, steamed vegetables are also easy and healthy. Both are quick.
Add a piece or two of fruit a day for a snack. If you’re an orange juice fan, buy the one with pulp in it.
Shut out the world for seven to eight hours a night. Let your body rest and recuperate.
When you wake-up, be open to the possibility that today will be better, and good things always happen.
Whenever I need a reality check, I look for someone who inspires me.
It is a musician, actor, poet? Is it a particular song? Reach for it like you would a cold bottle of water on a hot day. It will douse the flames of doubt.
My favorite person to google is Brene Brown.
“A good life happens when you stop and are grateful for the ordinary moments that so many of us just steamroll over to try to find those extraordinary moments.”
Life is full of small extraordinary moments, even on a rainy Monday morning.
The rain means we’ll have water to drink. Without it, we’ll die, so this is no small thing.
It means we’ll have green grass and leaves on the trees in the Spring.
It means animals will survive.
It means crops will grow. We’ll have food, and farmers will have an income.
It means we’ll have hot showers and water to wash our clothes.
And if it’s a bad day, it’s a bad day.
In The Road Less Traveled, M. Scott Peck, M.D., reminds us that life can be hard, and if we can get used to the idea, then we won’t be upset when things inevitably go wrong.
Roll with punches and get back up.
It’s not the end of the world. It’s just life.
And time, as always, will change everything.